How do I get rid of negative thoughts
With this technique, the instant you recognize that you are thinking a negative thought, you end it. You don’t argue with it, you don’t analyze it, you don’t defend yourself against it, you cut it off. The moment you recognize that you’re thinking a negative thought, simply cut it off and insert a totally different thought into your mind. And the key here is the instant you recognize you’re thinking a negative thought. So whenever you become aware of negative thinking, act immediately, cut it off and set a totally different thought into your mind.
As soon as you recognize that you are thinking a negative thought, instead of cutting it off as you did with the first technique, label it. You say to yourself, “What is happening inside me now is that I am experiencing ‘a negative thought.’ ” That’s all it is, and you keep reminding yourself of that. You keep reminding yourself that “It’s only a negative thought. It’s only a negative thought.” I’m going to share an astounding truth with you that will help you immensely in ridding yourself of negatives. I’m going to write it in bold letters and I would like you to read it over at least three times before you continue on, so that it becomes imprinted into your mind. Here it is: Negatives only have power over you if you react to them.
The exaggeration technique is a great technique, but you must exaggerate it into ridiculousness. And the key word here is ridiculousness. Let’s say that you’re a salesperson and you’re out making your sales calls and suddenly the thought comes to you, “Ah, what’s the use, I’m not going to make another sale today.” And then you catch yourself and you say, “Wait a second that’s a negative thought.” With the exaggeration technique, what you might then say is, “That’s right, I’m not going to make another sale today. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if, when I visit this next company, as soon as I open the door people are going to be throwing pails of water on me, and then they’re going to release pit bull terriers and German shepherds and I’m going to be bitten and I’m going to be wet, and then this great big mechanical boxing glove will come out and it’s going to smash me in the face. And then everybody is going to leap up on their desk and reveal this great big banner that says, ‘You fool, why did you come here? You’re never going to make another sale!’ ” And you just keep carrying on like this, exaggerating it until your mind goes, “Okay, enough, this is ridiculous.” You then find yourself laughing at the thought, and once you’re laughing at the thought you have robbed it of all its power. Wouldn’t it be great if when we had negative thoughts they came with warning signs reading, “It’s only a negative thought, you don’t have to believe it if you don’t want to.” But negatives don’t come like that. They come disguised as apparently real problems, or quietly, slipping in when we’re not paying attention. And if we’re not aware of the fact that our mind is the great trickster, forever conjuring up negative thoughts, then we’ll buy into every single destructive thought that occurs to us. But with these techniques we have ways of dealing with negatives. That’s why they are so valuable.
In order to better understand our negative thinking patterns, it’s important to know how they work. Imagine our mind as having two levels to it, like a house for instance, with the main floor being the conscious mind and the basement being the subconscious. This analogy allows us to see how there are two parts of our mind, working together, existing “under the same roof”: the conscious and the subconscious.
The conscious part of our mind is responsible for logic and reasoning, and a good portion of your negative thoughts. For instance, if you were asked to count the peas on your plate, it’s your conscious mind that will add it up. The conscious mind also controls your voluntary actions, so when you decide to move your arms or legs, it’s your conscious mind telling you to carry out the action.